Bully is physical or mental violence in which one or more people attack or intimidate another person. This violent behavior is common in school environments and generally affects children and adolescents who are physically weaker than their peers.
Bullying does not only occur when the perpetrator physically abuses the victim, such as hitting, slapping, or kicking. Bullying can also be carried out without using physical violence, such as taunting, calling someone slanderous, or it can also spread gossip about the victim or humiliate him in front of many people.
In today's technology era, bullying is getting easier. The perpetrator only needs to use social media to bring down the victim, such as distributing negative themed texts, photos or videos about the victim.
People who bully are usually physically strong. It is likely that he grew up in a violent family or environment.
WHAT ARE THE NEGATIVE EFFECTS?
It is possible that those who are being bullied will experience impacts such as:
- Mental health problems, such as depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, difficulty sleeping well, wanting to hurt yourself, or even suicidal thoughts.
- Become a drug user.
- Decreased academic performance. This effect may occur because the victim is afraid to go to school so that it has an impact on their learning activities.
- Joined violence. The bullied person is likely to retaliate or try to abuse himself.
While the negative effects that may be experienced by bullies include:
- Discharged from school.
- Become a drug user.
- Threatened with a criminal sentence for committing violence.
HOW DO I STOP THIS ACTION?
The child who is being bullied may be afraid to tell other people. He might also turn quiet. Therefore, as parents, you must be observant to see changes in their behavior. The following are the characteristics of children who are victims of bullying.
- What used to be enthusiastic, now he refuses to go to school.
- His learning achievement has decreased.
- Suddenly losing friends or avoiding friend requests.
- His belongings disappeared or were destroyed.
- Experiencing changes in appetite.
- Experiencing sleep disturbances.
- Ran away from home.
- Looks stressed when you get home from school or after checking his cellphone.
- There may be wounds on his body.
The type of child who is likely to become a victim of bullying
Every child has the opportunity to experience bullying from their social environment, Mother. However, quoting from the Very Well Family, some of which have a higher risk are children with the following criteria:
1. The child is successful
Children who succeed at anything may get bullied. Successful children will get a lot of positive attention from friends or adults. This makes other people jealous of their inability or worry about their ability to be overshadowed, so they bully them so that they feel insecure or doubt the child's abilities.
2. The smart kid
A smart, creative child or an assiduous student who does well academically may also be targeted by bullies because they are jealous or can't keep up with them.
3. Introverted child
Children who are introverted, panic-prone, or obedient are more likely than children who are extroverted and assertive. In fact, some researchers believe that children who lack self-confidence and enjoy pleasing others can attract bullies.
Research also shows that children who suffer from depression or stress are more likely to be bullied. Bullies choose them because they are less likely to fight back. Most perpetrators feel themselves strong, so they choose weaker children.
4. Loner
Many victims of bullying tend to have fewer friends than those who don't. They may be rejected by their peers, excluded from social events and spend lunch or rest alone.
5. Popular child
Sometimes bullies target children who are popular or liked because they threaten their popularity or social standing. The bully will try to discredit the victim and make him less likable.
6. Different appearance or defects
Almost any type of physical trait that differs or disabilities can attract the bully's attention, Mother. Victims can be short, thin, fat, glasses, spotty, and other physical characteristics, or have disabilities or special needs.
Often times, this type of bullying is very painful because it can damage the child's self-esteem. Most bullies target their victims for fun by making fun of the flaws.
7. Differences in religion, culture and race
Children may also be bullied simply because of their religious, cultural or racial beliefs. Bullying based on religious and cultural beliefs usually starts from a lack of understanding and tolerance to believe something different.
Bully isues in group
MINA EX AOA
Mina's confession regarding the bullying she experienced while joining AOA started with the DM she received from netizens. In the DM, this unknown netizen told Mina to 'scram' in a very harsh tone.
In her post, Mina admitted that she also wanted to leave without having to be asked by netizens. But he still has to take care of his mother and become the backbone of the family since his father passed away in 2014.
The bullying that Mina has experienced for 10 years has had a quite severe psychological impact on this idol who was born on September 21, 1993. Mina was diagnosed with depression and panic disorder. He even had convulsions because of the stress.
Mina must take sleeping pills and sedatives in order to fall asleep and carry out activities as an idol well. Instead of getting cured, Mina's condition got worse over time because it was made worse by the treatment of 'unnie'.
When her condition got worse due to stress and excessive sleeping pills, Mina told FNC Entertainment that she was like this because of Jimin. However, FNC Entertainment ignored Mina's words.
Feeling that she has no one on her side, Mina has no choice but to hide her sleeping pillbox since the age of 21. Mina remained silent until the end and endured everything she received by taking pills.
After Mina's story caught the public's attention, Jimin had uploaded a story on his personal Instagram account. The story with a black background and the inscription of "fiction" uploaded by AOA's leader was immediately deleted a few moments later.
Jimin's Instagram was immediately flooded with questions from netizens about the truth of the story revealed by Mina. Not a few netizens also expressed their disappointment at Jimin if the story was true.
Early Saturday morning (4/7/2020), Mina again uploaded a plain black image with a long caption. Beginning with an apology for causing a stir until it was reported by many media, Mina then told the chronology of Jimin's arrival at her house.
When talking with Mina, Jimin admitted that he forgot what he had done in the past. But Mina still tried to remind Jimin's bullying.
Both claimed to have spoken for a long time. Mina stated that Jimin kept apologizing to her. Even though she admitted that she had decided to apologize to Jimin, Mina continued that she had doubts about whether her former team-mate really sincerely apologized.
Mina apologized for causing a fuss and promised to improve. He also realized that he had stressed a lot of people. In addition, Mina admitted that she could not think positively about Jimin and this problem.
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